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Dad’s Obituary

There will be a small message about my dad in the obituary section of the Minneapolis Star Tribune tomorrow, Sunday, 2/17/19. Here is the correct link to the extended online version with information about his celebration of life:

Roland Dumonceaux Obituary

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My Daddy

My dad peacefully passed away at 8:23pm last night, 2/10/19, at Southdale Hospital. I’m so grateful my mom, brother, Travis, and I were all able to be with him to tell him we love him.

I was very fortunate to have an hour and a half alone with him yesterday where I was able to share several loving thoughts. I know there are a lot of people who don’t get this kind of opportunity. My dad has always been there for our entire family, I am also grateful I am still alive to have been there for him.

He was asking for help. I told him I would try to make sure he was comfortable. The nurses were incredible, the level of care and compassion was out of this world. They truly helped in the process and made sure his needs were met. I’m glad he is at peace because he needed to rest. It’s never easy saying goodbye but it’s a reality of life and I know time will help heal us all. There will be a day when we all meet again. Until then, I gave him a deck of cards to take with him, the deck I still had that we used to play with when I was a child.

Spending all my days with him continuously since December, I realized how much I am like my dad. Seeing everything he endured, I now understand where my strength and fight for life comes from. I told him he was being so brave, I would be brave for him. I held his hand the entire day and continued throughout the end. We continuously reminded him it was okay, he was loved, and we would take care of my mom. I know he heard us.

Anyone that met my dad knows he was such a sweet man. Even at the end, all the nurses said he was their favorite. I am lucky I was my dad’s daughter. I will forever cherish his wisdom, humor and kind demeanor. As devastating as it is to lose my loving father, I’m glad he is in a better place.

Whenever we were together, we would always teach each other one thing for the day. Even though he could not speak the last day of his life, he still taught his one thing for the day. He taught me how to die with grace and dignity. I miss my daddy already and I will always love him dearly. I love you Papa.

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Chance To Become Stronger

Last Saturday was very scary with my dad, my mom was called at 8 AM because he had a very large rectal bleed. When heparin is running 24/7 there is always the risk of a bleed. They pumped in three units of plasma to stop the bleeding then kept a close eye on him the remainder of the day and through the night. The cause of the bleed is still a mystery but at least the plasma helped!

That same Saturday, Interventional Radiology was hoping to place an IVC filter in his vein to prevent clots in his leg from moving into his lungs. He already has clots on both sides of his lungs with a couple that are significant in size, he doesn’t need to add anymore. With the bleeding he was experiencing, the filter was delayed and cancelled for Saturday. Fortunately the filter was able to be placed the next day under mild anesthesia.

Another issue my dad has been having is struggling with eating. Over a month ago, he thought he had a complete blockage in his esophagus. At times, even sips of water had to be regurgitated. Since that time he has not been able to consume many calories throughout the day. Monday, he went under anesthesia again to look for a blockage in his esophagus and to look at his rectum for the cause of the bleed. Yikes, both ends! Nothing too concerning was found in either direction. His esophagus was clear which is good news but it doesn’t explain why he has not been able to swallow much. The doctor mentioned she could see the pill he took earlier in the morning before the procedure in his throat because it was still dissolving. He may be having problems with his swallowing technique? The next step is to have a barium swallow to take a look at his swallowing maneuver. There is a catch with the swallow test, he needs to be in the sitting position for over thirty minutes.

Meanwhile without eating or getting nutrients, he is losing weight and every day becomes weaker. He has been completely exhausted this last week, sleeping nearly the entire day and night. I think anyone would be like that with consuming only about 200 calories a day and that’s on a good day!

There was a small success and I think it came at the right moment because since last Wednesday when he arrived in the Emergency Room he didn’t seem to have anything going in his favor. Everyone that walked into his room seemed to have bad news. A few days ago, PT helped him sit on the edge of his bed. He lasted about one minute before he had to lay back in his bed. He was just too dizzy. Two days ago, he was able to sit for ten minutes. He then laid back and did a few leg exercises.

The ten minutes was good. As I mentioned though, for the barium swallow test he has to be sitting for a while. He has been taking medicine to help prevent his blood pressure from dropping and making him so dizzy when he sits up and it is improving but he has a way to go.

The discussion of a G/J-tube was started. It is a tube surgically placed into the abdomen that delivers nutrition directly to the stomach. Because of his inability to swallow, plus the liver cirrhosis, it seems to be the best chance for him to get the nutrients he needs.

After getting all his questions answered (thank you Michele), he decided he would undergo yet another bout of anesthesia for the third time in five days! Yesterday afternoon, the tube was placed and his first feeding was overnight. He is sore from the insertion but that is expected when a tube is all of a sudden sticking out of your belly!

Today we are very hopeful that once he starts getting nutrition, he will start feeling better and become stronger so he can continue his rehab and eventually be back at home!

My family and I want to thank everyone for the messages, phone calls, and prayers. I apologize if we have not answered you back but we really appreciate the outpouring of support.

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